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  1. September 6, 2016 / 7:20 am

    Oh god this is me too!!! Every time I think about applying I cry and then the very thought of having to be in two places at once confuses me! How do people do it??!!

  2. September 6, 2016 / 7:27 am

    Oh god I feel for you on this one. I have no idea how it’s going to work when Piglet starts school. Why is the world so cruelly only set up for people who don’t work? I could go on about how they don’t know they’re born, etc, etc, but that will probably get me shot, so I’ll shut up now, but other people manage it, so it must be do-able, right? Good luck! #tribe

    • September 6, 2016 / 7:43 am

      It HAS to be doable, I just have no idea how. And I can’t not work as there’s quite a meaty deficit between income and outgoings otherwise. Argh. Just when you get sorted in one routine…

  3. September 6, 2016 / 8:13 am

    Argh! I feel for you. It’s bloody impossible. Before we moved to Jersey we struggled as I was a full-time teacher in one part of the city and then Mr C had his job in another part of the city. We had the one car too and no family to help. It was crazy what we had to do. Mr C would have to walk Oldest to childminder (who would take to school) but you were not allowed to be a minute early. This would then leave him 2 minutes to run for the bus to get to the train station to get to work. I had to be in work early doors so wasn’t able to help in morning. I don’t know what we would be doing now if I was still working full-time with 2. However, I think we would have found a way. I think when you have to do something you kind of just get on with it as you don’t know any different. I hope you get it sorted. But in this waffle of an essay I wanted to say that I feel your pain!

    • September 6, 2016 / 8:54 am

      Thank you for the comment, don’t apologise! That sounds full on too. That’s the thing – clubs and nurseries are quick to penalise you for a late pick up but you can’t get away with a sneaky 5 mins early drop off. We will manage it. But it shouldn’t be this hard. I’m a good person, I pay my taxes, blah blah! Xx

  4. September 6, 2016 / 8:50 am

    Oh I really feel for you – I only have one and have no idea how I’m going to do it! It feels like you end up disappointing both sides – work and home – and no one gets enough of you. Hope you find something that works for you lovely, this going back to work thing is more complicated than I thought! Xxx

    • September 6, 2016 / 8:56 am

      Thanks lovely, don’t worry it’s definitely easier managing one child and nursery even though that’s a challenge too. Like with anything I guess once you have the routine established you get on with it and make it work, somehow x

  5. September 6, 2016 / 8:57 am

    Thank you, at least I have a year to worry about it / win the lottery ???? xx

  6. September 6, 2016 / 9:48 am

    Yeah, there’s always option 3: Win lottery, become a lady of leisure and hire staff to do all the running around while you have naps and eat cake.

    Most people I know do option 1 if they can. Option 2 is a shitter. Bloody schools that don’t have onsite wrap around care.

  7. Soton mum
    September 6, 2016 / 8:51 pm

    I’ve tried to dole out an equal level of crap for the child and the baby (both get some shorter days and some longer days where they are drop down tired) and it is barely worth going to work for the couple of hundred pounds I actually bring in after childcare (no family here to help either). I think I live in the same city as you too and the traffic is often the biggest stress, I had to bite the bullet and go even more part time just so I could make it to 3 places each morning and afternoon!

    • September 6, 2016 / 8:53 pm

      Urgh I’m sorry for your situation too – it sounds like very hard work and yes, the traffic here is an absolute drain. I have to do Archers Road in rush hour which makes me contemplate abandoning my car and running away! Thanks for reading and commenting xx

      • Soton mum
        September 8, 2016 / 4:28 pm

        argh Archers Road! I try not to think about how much of my life I waste sitting in traffic there!

  8. September 8, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    It always seem so difficult when working and children needing to be in different places.
    Would you be able to combine a bit of both of the above options?
    Maybe send the school aged child to breakfast club so that you can get on with some work but then pick her up from school. Not only will you save money but also you will then get to have chats with the teacher as and when needed? I hope you find a solution.

    • September 8, 2016 / 4:19 pm

      Thank you for the lovely comment, still looking at all the options but nothing is perfect, compromises everywhere sadly!

  9. September 19, 2016 / 8:54 am

    I really feel your pain. School days are a proper juggling act. Why can’t school match standard working hours? Have you looked into childminders? Some will do the pre & after school care & the school run for you. Sometimes there are part-time nannies too who will do this stuff too. I have some friends who share a nanny and it works well for them.

    • September 19, 2016 / 9:11 am

      Thank you – place has now been applied for so i’m burying my head in the sand for a while before I start looking into childminders. I don’t like change, haha.

  10. October 1, 2016 / 10:37 pm

    Aw maaaaan, it made me exhausted reading your post! What about a child minder? Cheaper and nicer, almost a grandma replacement figure (except they don’t try to kiss you on the lips!?) Hope you get it sorted. #KCACOLS

  11. October 1, 2016 / 10:39 pm

    We had two primary aged children at two different schools at opposite ends of town for a year. It was not easy! #KCACOLS

  12. October 1, 2016 / 10:43 pm

    I’m sure you’re going to work it out – you may not like change like you said above, but I can tell from your blog that you’re super resourceful! It will fall into place. #kcacols

  13. October 1, 2016 / 10:55 pm

    Oh I can only imagine how you feel, my son is only 7 months old and this is already starting to play on my mind! #KCACOLS

  14. October 1, 2016 / 11:05 pm

    You do what you have too. I am sure you will figure it out. Sounds annoying to try to figure it al though. #KCACOLS Best of luck to you!

  15. October 1, 2016 / 11:34 pm

    My head will remain firmly in the sand until next September!! Bloody stressful all round. The whole post was somewhat overshadowed by you describing Dora as ‘brain food’ though. What. The. Actual?! #KCACOLS

  16. October 1, 2016 / 11:42 pm

    Juggling childcare and work is such a pain, I got round the problem by getting a job in my children’s school and now they have all left and gone onto secondary school and I feel free to do whatever job I like πŸ™‚ Hope it all works out for you #kcacols

  17. October 1, 2016 / 11:43 pm

    Oh no. Work and childcare is always difficult/a nightmare! I hope you manage to work out something that’s not too hard. Good luck! #KCACOLS

  18. October 2, 2016 / 12:05 am

    Omg that’s given me a headache never mind you. Absolute nightmare! Good luck! #KCACOLS

  19. October 2, 2016 / 12:36 am

    Three kids, three different schools. Did it working part time ok with two for a bit, started part time evening work after the third. Everything is a logistical nightmare! At least after school club is a possibility, it’s are all over subscribed. Good luck is all I got for you.. Lots of good luck xxx #KCACOLS

  20. October 2, 2016 / 9:32 am

    I would like to offer some encouraging advice that it will all be OK, having raised my two boys alone for the last 20 years and juggled it all, Its not, Its hard work, the things I had to do to make it all work were unbelievable at times. I decided to start my own business which although was even harder, gave me a better work/home balance in the end especially when I decided to do it from home. The holidays are the worst, thankfully I managed somehow with grandparents help. I am so glad those days are over to be honest & the Β£1,000 nursery bill! (although actually they still cost me a fortune) #KCACOLS

  21. October 2, 2016 / 9:36 am

    It’s always a dilemma isn’t it. We were totally reliant on before and after school clubs when Ella was younger and we’re now faced with paying for 4 days nursery when we won’t even need it every week because of Mr Jones’ shift pattern. They don’t make it easy do they! #kcacols

  22. October 2, 2016 / 9:47 am

    I hope you will sort it out! After reading your post I’m glad that my baby has about 3 years till he start school
    #KCACOLS

  23. October 2, 2016 / 10:02 am

    It’s so hard isnt it! I’m lucky enough to only work 2 full days and on these days my husband can pick my big 2 up from school! #KCACOLS

  24. October 2, 2016 / 10:58 am

    There was a point where my kids went to different schools and getting them to where they needed to be was not easy. I was a single mum at the time and had no help, I was the chasing my tail mum. It does feel sometimes that things are against the working mum.
    #KCACOLS

  25. October 2, 2016 / 10:59 am

    Juggling school and work is hard and I have a lot of admiration for anyone who manages it.
    We do it as well, but we are lucky that nursery and school are a stone’s throw away #KCACOLS

  26. October 2, 2016 / 11:17 am

    That does sound stressful but I’m sure you’ll make it work! I’m currently ignoring letters of early placement reminders for Izzy (2) x #KCACOLS

  27. October 2, 2016 / 12:09 pm

    Ha ha welcome to my world…a world of eternally spinning plates, astronomical childcare costs & lots of wine! #KCACOLS

  28. October 2, 2016 / 12:50 pm

    I do not blame you for hiding behind the cushion. My daughter is 19 months and already thinking of school brings me out in a cold sweat. The world is not built to support working parent still… I’m just hoping there are school clubs at wherever my LO ends up. But even those don’t tend to finish late enough. Good luck sorting it out. Sending you happy thoughts and lucky vibes… #KCACOLS

  29. October 2, 2016 / 1:12 pm

    It sounds like a nightmare! Why we understood the importance of ‘wraparound care’ in the 1940s but can’t manage it in 2016 is beyond me. We’re lucky in that we’re stopping at one, but even that has problems with staggered school days, etc. x #KCACOLS

  30. October 2, 2016 / 1:56 pm

    OH MY CHRIST We have to apply now?!?!!?!?! Ah shit. Well, I feel you on this one! #kcacols

  31. October 2, 2016 / 2:25 pm

    I’m a SAHM but I can feel your pain. It’s hard to juggle work and children.
    Hope you get it sorted soon.

    #kcacols

  32. October 2, 2016 / 3:21 pm

    Oh I don’t even want to think about school yet – every time I think about it I like the sound of homeschooling more and more. It seems like such a rush around all the time and that is just with me having one child! I don’t have to think about it til next year but I am sure that time will come round too fast! #KCACOLS

  33. October 2, 2016 / 3:40 pm

    Urgh I feel the knot in your tummy that you must have over the house/space/school sitch. Yep, my husband is fab but I keep telling him this isn’t something we can just wing and hope for the best on! Sadly because we only have one car which I cannot get to work without, it’s sort of assumed that I’m the default parent and day to day, his work arrangements will be wholly unaffected. Pretty tough! Thanks for reading and I hope you get your situation sorted too. #KCACOLS xx

  34. October 2, 2016 / 6:51 pm

    I’ve got my boys in a through school which to me is the best invention since TV. They go there at 4 and leave at 18…Fab!!
    Mainy
    #kcacols

  35. October 2, 2016 / 7:44 pm

    Yep! Going through this at the moment. We are actually surrounded by schools but all of them are oversubscribed and those that aren’t are diabolical! Most of them now do their catchment areas according to demand. One of them, for the admission this year, had a catchment of 500 meters! Yep! 500 meters! How is that possible! Needless to say we are not within the 500 meters. Send me that whale song playlist and a bottle of wine if you don’t mind!
    #KCACOLS

  36. October 2, 2016 / 9:53 pm

    Oh god I completely feel your pain on this one! I work but 4 days a week but am very lucky to be able to have help from my MIL two days a week. My husband then works one day from home and I work one day from home so it’s just about covered.

    Is it possibly worth looking into a childminder that could drop off and pick up Mouse? I would imagine they would be cheaper than breakfast and after school club? That way you would just need to drop Moo off? #KCACOLS

  37. October 2, 2016 / 11:07 pm

    Oh god, I really feel for you and all the other working mothers out there. I’m not saying us sahm’s have it easy but when it comes to issues like this we kind of do. Getting the kids sorted and the oldest to school in time is a mammoth task and we are only a ten minute walk away, I really do take my hat off to all those mothers who have to do this and get to work. You defintetly deserve that top up. Hope you find a solution that works for you x
    #KCACOLS

  38. October 3, 2016 / 10:32 am

    This is so depressing, but you still made me laugh so hard whilst reading it! It also reminded me that I really need to start thinking about schools too. Aaaaaaaargh! I gave up my job when my youngest was 1 as the childcare was just too extortionate. We are better off now that I do a rubbish little job from home than when I worked in law! I honestly don’t know how we’d manage the school run otherwise – probably by paying my entire wage for someone else to do the drop offs and pick ups instead. In all seriousness though, I don’t know how you do it and I admire you so much for keeping up your proper job while trying! Good luck xx /KCACOLS

  39. October 3, 2016 / 12:26 pm

    Oh my god what a nightmare! I know how you feel with the progressively crap employee (three kids were too much I’m afraid and I gave up work to work from home but that is simply not an option for many people). I really feel for you and hope that you manage to work something out. Try cutting yourself in half!! #KCACOLS

  40. October 3, 2016 / 3:58 pm

    im in a similar situation and it absolutely blows whichever way you slice it. #kcacols

  41. October 3, 2016 / 8:44 pm

    Can the hubster (aka my mate) pick up a bit of the slack? Or could you work condensed hours, like three long days so at least you’re not running around like a mad woman all the time? I know a lot of people round here use childminders to do the school drop-off and pick-up so that might be more convenient for you? I know this is verging on genuine advice so I apologise. #KCACOLS

    • October 3, 2016 / 10:55 pm

      Your mate is kind of a third wheel in all of this as we’re one-car peeps and my delightful place of work is completely out in the sticks, so I need to have the old pussy wagon as my commuting beast really. But yes, I’m thinking condensing is the way to go, maybe wraparound care via childminder or am/pm clubs three days a week then I do the other two days. I appreciate the genuine advice, which I took in kind spirits but felt the need to dilute with the insertion of “pussy wagon”, above.

  42. October 3, 2016 / 9:55 pm

    hmm, yes, I only have one, but jeez it is tough enough as it is. You parents who have multiples are super human you really are. I work for a government department where the percentage of women in more senior roles thins out significantly. I found out the other day that our HR director (white, middle aged male, wife at home) commissioned a study into why women don’t tend to return to work full time once their children start school. Commissioned a study? I mean WTF. I am tempted to print your blog post and hand it to him to save the government money on a ‘study’. Rant over! Pen x #KCACOLS

    • October 4, 2016 / 12:52 pm

      Commissioned a study, he wants to try a day in the front line of working motherhood! Ooooh angry fist pump. Thank you for reading lovely xx

  43. October 3, 2016 / 10:34 pm

    Oh this is awful. We just have one child and also used get a lot of help from family when I was working, so we were really lucky and your post makes me appreciate just how lucky we were. I hope you get something sorted out and that it’s not too horrific. #KCACOLS

  44. October 4, 2016 / 2:49 am

    This sounds rather tricky.. I hope you manage to find a routine that fits your family! Man I can’t handle it when pre-schools ask for the world and more. Like we have time to collect all these things πŸ™‚ #KCACOLS

  45. October 4, 2016 / 12:07 pm

    yep – I feel the same too. I don’t have two so don’t have the school/nursery calamity to deal with but its just all the time required to cover school hols. and my boy does more hours in nursery at the mo than he will at school. I find it all ridiculous if im being honest. but hey ho. I best get my ass in gear and start looking into this!! #KCACOLS

  46. October 4, 2016 / 8:19 pm

    I’m a SAHM, if I do return to what I was doing it will be breakfast club and after school club for the one and nursery from 7.30 – 6 for the other two πŸ™ No family nearby and hubby has similar working hours. #KCACOLS

  47. October 4, 2016 / 8:49 pm

    Oh no this sounds horrific. I know that we would struggle if we were both at work with our two boys. We decided to take time out until the boys are a little older and we are now living in Spain. Life is too short. I hope you can find out a solution where you get a little more time with your kids #KCACOLS

  48. October 4, 2016 / 8:58 pm

    Oh god, what a nightmare. I don’t even want to think about all that. Another option would be – get pregnant and be on maternity leave for the best part of the school year. Admittedly this will add more problems down the line (you’d have to change your whole blog name for starters!!!). Seriously though, I hope you work out a good solution even if you do get through a few wine bottles in the meantime. Congrats on the Huff Post feature, well done! x #KCACOLS

  49. October 6, 2016 / 2:49 pm

    We had our letter through the other day ! I’m just about to write a post about it actually πŸ™ She’s too smalllll x #KCACOLS

  50. October 6, 2016 / 5:57 pm

    Ugh it’s so depressing and difficult isn’t it. Such an impossible juggling act, I ended up giving up my job to go freelance, partly because of this very problem! Ridiculous. Now I need to apply for school for my youngest and hope she gets into the same school! Good luck with it all xx #KCACOLS

  51. October 6, 2016 / 10:24 pm

    Eeek this post scared me…. Im in denial… We will have very similar issues over the next few years *buries head in sand* thank god I have a relatively reasonable employer! Good luck!
    #KCACOLS

  52. October 7, 2016 / 12:57 pm

    This is my life right now! My eldest started school in September, and my youngest is at nursery. As a result I’ve had to reduce my schedule working days to just one day a week when I rely on my parents. It currently takes me an hour and a half to get the kids to where they need to be, and again in the afternoon, that’s 3 hours a day just ferrying them around! It’s crazy! Just hope we can still makes ends meet! #KCACOLS

  53. October 7, 2016 / 9:46 pm

    I don’t have kids yet but I have to admit that reading your post makes me worry a bit. I never thought of things from this perspective.
    I am sure you will manage this somehow and I will come back to your blog to find out how πŸ™‚
    #KCACOLS

  54. October 8, 2016 / 10:54 am

    Oh this makes me so mad for you. No wonder so many women struggle to work when they have families. This is why I quit my job and went freelance, but I’m lucky to be able to do this and with the support of my husband. Can you investigate local childminders who may give you better wrap around childcare for both your children? I hope it works out for you soon and you’re not too stressed. #KCACOLS x

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