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  1. September 30, 2016 / 7:49 am

    You’re awesome at all ages (I’m sure I’ve only known you now). Money would be nice but then what would we moan about? Urgh my jewels are just TOO big.

    • September 30, 2016 / 9:26 am

      To be honest I’d probably get gout from all the excessively rich foodstuffs.

  2. September 30, 2016 / 8:13 am

    Hmm I feel like a can’t comment as I’m over 40! BUT, take a year off – go travel the world with the girls – go do something crazy – who said you shouldn’t? Do it! You’ll come back feeling amazing that you’ve lived and not just done the norm. Go read those blogs of couples who are travelling with their kids as a way of life – I think you’ll realise actually how little you really need in life – I mean ‘one’ would realise. We are so caught up in this world of we should do this and we should have that but should we? Looking forward to your next post from a camp in Maui! xx

    • September 30, 2016 / 9:28 am

      Oh I would love to – if only we had a spare magic pot of cash! Friends of ours were considering it too, so so enriching for everyone if it can be done. Sadly in this era of (relative) freedom of choice I feel pretty trapped. But we never know what the future holds so Maui might come off yet! Thanks for the lovely comment darling xxx

  3. September 30, 2016 / 8:13 am

    I’ve written a few posts in a similar vein. I’m 36 and feel positively ancient, and it’s because I haven’t yet done all the things I hoped I would have by this age. I have been on the property ladder, and hopefully will be again soon, but I haven’t met anyone to marry, or even vaguely have a relationship with and it definitely feels that time is running out! #tribe

    • September 30, 2016 / 9:30 am

      I see you as a success though, completely…it’s strange what we perceive in others and what we benchmark ourselves against. Time is certainly not running out for you anyway, you’re a catch and a half! xxx

  4. Laura Drake
    September 30, 2016 / 9:58 am

    It’s a totally grass is greener sitch. I see you, only one year my senior, as so much more glamorous and accomplished! I, at 31, am desperate to inject a bit of youthful life to my wardrobe and style rather than slip inexorably into the ‘mum cardi and suprrmarket trainers chic’. We have a house but can’t afford those lovely holidays I daydream about. I’m shuffling around the bottom rungs of my career ladder without even being entirely sure I’m ambitious enough to climb it and earn more. And you’re a whole child ahead of me. It’s all perspective and relativity. You’re totally on par! All of us look around and question why we feel so much less adult than the next 30-something. Then you realise they think it too!

    • September 30, 2016 / 12:40 pm

      Thank you for reading and giving me a little boost! Perception is a marvellous and curious thing – I think I’m failing, every day. But to the next person I might well have some boxes ticked and sealed off that they don’t, yet. Maybe turning 40 will bring that acceptance, and negate the need for comparisons…I’m very guilty of comparing my start point to someone else’s middle, my apples with their pears, so to speak. I live in hope anyway! X

  5. Soton Mum
    September 30, 2016 / 1:54 pm

    My husband and I often have this conversation. We have a mortgage but to a tiny two bed (and two kids) in a not great area we are outgrowing rapidly with no prospects for moving. We both changed jobs to be able to balance having the kids but it seems like all our friends are much more sorted and well off and we’re mid to late 30’s. I keep thinking I should have my shit together when I’m 40 but I’m not sure how that will happen. Some parking sensors and a regular holiday sounds amazing!

    • September 30, 2016 / 3:36 pm

      Sorry to hear you’re in a similar position. Yep – by 40 we’ll have this life thing completely nailed!

  6. Ellen
    October 1, 2016 / 10:50 pm

    Hmmm age is such a funny one. So is money. I am 26 but I look and feel a lot older – maybe because B is much older than me? My dad reckons I’ve always been old for my age, he thinks it is because I am the youngest in the family. I completely get where you are coming from with money too – I have family members in very similar situations. BUT you’re fucking fabulous. And I agree with Laura that the grass is always greener and I bet people envy you. I envy your bloody amazing body and how healthy you are! Besides, landscaping a garden sounds fucking boring. ????

  7. October 4, 2016 / 2:14 pm

    Be proud of who you are! I feel like this about my career, I look at people I used to work with and where they are in their careers now and I think what have I done!! But a wise person once said to me, remember where you were when you made those choices. Would I change giving up my job? I don’t think so, but it would be nice to have a sliding doors moment and see where I would be now if I had taken a different path. 40s are the new 30s, we’ll all have it sorted by then!!

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