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  1. October 28, 2016 / 7:44 am

    You’re good. I now just scoff, or laugh. Nah I don’t really, I’m nice. But getting less so the more my kids royally pee me off.

  2. October 28, 2016 / 8:21 am

    This is brilliant! It doesn’t make you sound like a misog at all (I’ve always wondered how to spell that!) I found it quite moving in a nodding along kind of way. It made me feel real. I can still relate to all of these things even though they seem a distant memory. Of course the journey changes, same kid – different list, 10 years on. Spot on and beautifully written my lovely x

    • October 28, 2016 / 12:25 pm

      Thank you for the lovely comment and I’m glad I’ve given you a word of the day ???? xx

  3. October 28, 2016 / 9:43 am

    This is brilliant and you’ve hit the nail on the head. I can’t help but feel the same way – there’s a pregnant lady on my team at work and sometimes little things creep out amongst those of us with kids – the lack of sleep, the judgement on whether you breastfeed or don’t/couldn’t…but I can tell she doesn’t want to here it and will continue to compile her John Lewis shopping list (no exaggeration there!). I think what you said is spot on and the only way we can react – everyone will carve their own way and find their own coping mechanisms…in years to come hopefully you can share the highs and lows together 🙂 xxx

    • October 28, 2016 / 12:23 pm

      Thanks lovely – if only it were as simple as a John Lewis list! It’s definitely hard not to feel a bit jaded and “in the know”. Their time will come ????

  4. October 28, 2016 / 12:24 pm

    Thank you ???? Then in a few years I can openly mock them with a jeering “told you so!” I will absolutely do that. I’m awesome but horrible.

  5. Ellen
    October 28, 2016 / 2:20 pm

    Ahhh love ❤️❤️ Beautiful words as always. I feel like too many people DID try to tell me this when I was pregnant and honestly it wound me up a bit! I wish everyone was as wise as you in knowing that every experience is different and truly the only way we will know is when it happens to us. I was like surely I get 9 months of blissful ignorance before the hard work starts? Stop pissing on my parade you jaded parents/grandparents. Moosey you really are wonderful though xx

    • October 28, 2016 / 3:03 pm

      See, I joke about telling it straight but actually when it comes to it I’m pretty sympathetic and gentle. “Hmm? Oh no the sleep dep is actually fine once you get used to it. Here’s a pack of unopened 3-6m vests, have those on me.” ???? (Er, true story). Love you too and thank you for reading, YouTube starlet xx

    • October 28, 2016 / 4:19 pm

      Oh, sorry lovely. Me too. Feel your pain! It’s a “hahaha pass the wine but seriously I’m broken” day here. The wine will help a bit ????

  6. October 28, 2016 / 6:56 pm

    Love this. You sum it up perfectly. If anyone had told me how they truthfully found the “dark side” of parenting I’d have fully ignored them. And yep, I asked for all the must-haves from people who knew, and ignored that too and bought everything. X

    • October 28, 2016 / 8:27 pm

      Thank you… yep, I’d have thought “oh well they just find it tough because X works long hours and they already have 6 kids and a pony”, you always think you’ll cope slightly better than you actually do!

  7. October 29, 2016 / 7:37 am

    This is a great post! The truth that no one tells you that in those first few months (years) of parenthood you wonder why no one told you it straight but then would I have listened or would I have nodded along sympathetically thinking that’s just one person my experience will be different? More truthfully, I don’t think I would have cared. I was too busy being blissfully pregnant! A very accurate portrayal that now makes me feel thank goodness that it isn’t just me! X

    • October 30, 2016 / 6:59 am

      Thank you for the lovely comment. Being blissfully ignorant in pregnancy is something that we should respect and honour in other people, ha. Xx

  8. October 30, 2016 / 6:46 am

    Brilliant! I find myself hiding behind a smile, because I don’t want to come off as patronising, but…they don’t have a clue what’s about to happen. I must admit when I was pregnant, I got sick of being told I’d ruined my life and how hard it is, so I make a big effort not to track people out. They’ll find out in their own time. Besides which not everybody will have the Devil Pixie to contend with, as I did – some babies DO sleep. X

    • October 30, 2016 / 7:00 am

      Thanks for commenting – that’s lovely of you to keep “reality” under wraps and I must try a bit harder not to let my mild bitterness seep out! Xxx

  9. October 30, 2016 / 8:38 pm

    This is spot on. I find myself thinking about some of these things too when I hear that friends are pregnant. I’m happy for them, sure, but part of me thinks, “Oh man…you don’t know the half of it.” But there’s no way to prepare for it, really – you can read all the books or online forums you want, but you kind of just need to get stuck into it in order to really understand the exhaustion, the overwhelmingness and the amazingness of being a parent.

    • October 30, 2016 / 9:42 pm

      Exactly it – there is no preparation that quite gears you up. Thank you for commenting lovely xx

  10. October 30, 2016 / 8:47 pm

    You don’t know till you know and then you’re a bit too exhausted to… wait that’s it! Of course it’s wonderful, but there’s definitely two sides to the ‘there’s nothing like being a parent’ thing! Love it. #eatsleepblogrt

    • October 30, 2016 / 9:42 pm

      Yep – more and more often my husband and I stare at each other in all the chaos and shout “remember when we could have just gone to the pub!” above all the noise. This too shall pass! Xx

  11. October 30, 2016 / 9:00 pm

    Having been that newly pregnant on the receiving end of advice, ignoring it and then being the latter this post is spot on!
    We bought so much crap that was barely used, we said we would or wouldn’t do this and that and end up going against it. Hahaha #EatSleepBlogRT

  12. October 31, 2016 / 6:19 am

    I loved this post – really honest and really refreshing to read! All absolutely true! I have always said that if I had truly sat down and thought about the implications of having children I may have thought twice about it. Don’t get me wrong I totally adore my kids but… I think you are right we do go into a plan mode to get over the shock. Thank you for linking up to #EatSleepBlogRT

    • October 31, 2016 / 7:56 am

      Thank you – so pleased you liked it and it resonated with you! Thanks for hosting #EatSleepBlogRT

  13. November 1, 2016 / 10:41 am

    This is perfect! Everything you say is 100%. The reality of having a family is totally different from the feeling you have when you find out you are going to and like you say there is no point in telling anybody this at that point. #eatsleepBLOGRT

  14. November 2, 2016 / 9:17 am

    Yes, all true! Just smile and congratulate- they’ll find out soon enough!! #EatSleepBlogRT

  15. November 24, 2016 / 10:24 am

    Fab post. I think parents to be should read this. How wrong I was when I thought a list of stuff for baby would solve everything. You do need a lot of stuff but I think the most important thing is willpower, caffeine and a very good sense of humour and understanding between you and whoever else is involved in looking after the wee one. I think our terrible sense of humour is what has kept my husband and I sane! Xx #nofilter

  16. November 25, 2016 / 7:34 am

    I wish pre-mum me had read this! Everything you say here is true! I never realised how hard it would be, how having kids would push me to the very limited of my sanity at times but still love them all the same, Never like having kids ever, and no, having a dog isn’t like having kids! Thanks so much for linking up. #NoFilter

  17. November 25, 2016 / 8:46 pm

    If someone had told me this before I got pregnant I don’t think I would have believed them but I’m guessing that’s how the human race survives! Thanks for linking up to #nofilter.

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